Conflict with your boss?

There are times when we do not agree with our boss. At times we feel that our boss does not listen to us. No matter what idea we give to our boss, he/she will always use his/her own ideas. We feel that there is no point to give idea after all. We even feel that our boss have favorites and we are not one of them.

All those feelings are both right and wrong. Right because all those things does happen. Wrong because it happen for reasons different from what we think. Yes our boss have favorites but not intentionally. There are some staff that always refer to the boss in their every move and ask for boss's opinions. Naturally our boss feel their opinions are valued. For those who can work independently and spend less time interacting wit the boss, naturally the boss seem less friendly with you. But trust me, the boss prefer staff like you but have less chance to show his/her appreciation of you.

For bosses that never seem to acknowledge our ideas but always stick to his/her own ideas, don't ever feel it is a waste of time to give opinions. Some people have very high ego and are difficult to acknowledge other people but silently they can value your bright ideas. We will find that silently they will carry out our ideas. We just have to learn to read the cues that when our ideas are implemented wholly or partly, our ideas are recognized. Yes it is a lot better if our ideas are acknowledged, I know.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, we won't ever find a work place that will satisfy us 100%. That is just a myth, not a reality. And we do not have the choice to easily change our work place. No matter where we work, each place has it own challenges and advantages. Enjoy the advantages to the fullest. Accept the limitations. It's nice if we can change our boss but that is not possible. We cannot change the world but if we change our self, the world will change too. Having the right attitude at out work place is one of the key to a happy working environment. A work place should be a place where to feel eager to go to every morning, not a place that you feel will kill you slowly. It is all up to us actually. We can choose to enjoy our work or we can choose to suffer while working.

Just concentrate on what way we can contribute, and how our presence can have significant positive effects on others. Every good deed has it own reward. Happy working. Remember to smile when we arrive at the office. It's a good way to start our work!