Can you?

Can you forgive someone who has mercilessly killed your beloved cousin and ripped open his chest to chew his heart? Me forgive that? Not likely. 

How do you feel about your neighbor that will give you hostile look and throw litter along your way every time you pass her house to go to work? I think I will just give up trying to be good to her. 

Can you still talk softly to a person who has pulled your shawl from your shoulder until your neck turned red? I think that is not human. I can't imagine I can do that.

If you are a husband, can you imagine going home late at night and called up your wife but she didn't open the door because she was asleep and then you decided to sleep right there in order not to wake your wife up? I think most husband will bang on the door until it reap open or just went away in anger. 

And as a husband can you imagine yourself sewing your own trousers in order not to trouble your wife because you know she has a lot of things to do? I'm the luckiest wife in the world if my husband will do that himself.

Can you? Can we? Well, Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him (p.b.u.h), can. 

He can forgive Hindun, the woman who planned the merciless killing of his cousin, Saidina Hamzah, who grow up as his play buddy. When Prophet Muhammad forgave Hindun, when she became a muslim she always refer to Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) to seek opinion on problems she's facing. When a person hurts my feeling, I will take my time to forgive him/her. The pain is even more severe if that person is very close to me. But I know if I follow Prophet Muhammad's forgiving manner it is for my own benefit. Keeping anger inside us is like keeping a fire that will slowly kill us. I want a happy life, not a sad one. I should learn to forgive. And to forgive sincerely.

Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) was not deterred by his hostile neighbor. In fact when she was absent from her daily chore of throwing rubbish on his way out, he decided to give her a visit. When he found out she was sick, he prepared for her hot broth/soup to revive her health. This act of kindness touched her so much that she convert/revert to Islam. Subhanallah, praise be to Allah. Therefore I should show patient to all my neighbors. And of course be more concern about them. I'm lacking in this area, I  got to admit.

Can I still talk softly to a person who show disrespect to me? I got to abstain myself from doing similar bad thing to that person. The badwi that did that to Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) convert to Islam when Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) admonish his sahabah from hurting the Badwi. Instead Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) still talk softly to him. He has never met anyone nicer than Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) before, masyaAllah. 

When Aisyah didn't open the door in the middle of the night, Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) took the shawl from his shoulder and spread it on the floor. That was his bed for the night. In the morning when Aisyah woke up, she suddenly remember that her husband didn't come back last night. She rushed to open the door and was so shock to see Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) sleeping on the floor. She apologized profusely. Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) apologized back to her for coming home late and disturb her sleep. So sweet. No two people can be more in love with each other.

Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) is not a type of husband who always order his wife around. Instead he would do a lot of thing himself in the house even though he's the head of the country. No one else can be more humble than him.

To love Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) is to emulate him. To follow his manners, his doings, his way of life, his diet, his temperament, his mood, his good nature, his smile, his salam, and thousands more. Oo.. Allah, give me the wiseness to know my prophet more and to follow him in every way I can. And put me in Jannah/paradise near my prophet so that I can look at him all the time. Please grant this wish of mine. Allah humman amin.

May Allah bless us all. 

 deter - discourage (someone) from doing something, typically by instilling doubt or fear of the consequences: only a health problem would deter him from seeking re-election.

 abstain - restrain oneself from doing or enjoying something: abstaining from chocolate.

 admonish - warn or reprimand someone firmly: she admonished me for appearing at breakfast unshaven | “You mustn'tsay that, Shiona,” Ruth admonished her.

profuse - (esp. of something offered or discharged) exuberantly plentiful; abundant: I offered my profuse apologies.

emulate - match or surpass (a person or achievement), typically by imitation: lesser men trying to emulate his greatness.

temperament - a person's nature, esp. as it permanently affects their behavior: she had an artistic temperament.