Friday, June 11, 2010

Parenting


What does it takes to feel happy? Money? My daughter is missing her second brother badly because they used to do a lot of fun things together. Like drawing, baking cakes, riding the motorbike, and just talking to each other; sharing all their sorrow and happiness. Now he is in college for almost two months already. He called home a few times. Sometimes not talking about anything specific. Just to hear the voices of loved ones.

At times my kids will do things that hurt my feeling. Like when they say something sharp at me or taking their sweet time when I called them to perform congregation prayer (solat berjemaah). I'm not the best mother I know but it feel that I'm such a failure when I fail to educate my kids with the proper Islamic teachings. Respect your elders, perform prayer on time, mingle with every family members to preserve the bond that tied us together, be a productive person and use time well, and the such. Good example set by my husband and me sometimes doesn't serve the purpose well. You got to preach the principles too. And kids got so tired of preaching. At times I feel like giving up but I know I can't. What will I answer to Allah? Everyone is accountable to those under their care. Parents are accountable to Allah for their kids. I always discussed with my husband and he will step in to handle the situation when he see that I was hurt. May Allah bless my husband.

As always Allah is always in the life line. I will wake up at night and perform solat tahajjud or night prayer and ask Allah to change my kids for the better. And to give the strength to me and my husband too. There is nothing that we can achieve without Allah's permission. And Allah is always there waiting for us to pray to him.

I have always pray to Allah to make each and everyone of my family members a good example to all those around us. Little Aiman is my halal ambassador. Choosing the sweets he want to buy at the store, he will always try to convince me to buy by showing the halal logo. "Mama, this one got halal Jakim logo". That sentence always draw smiles from all those around us. A message hit the ground. Each one of my kids have their holy mission. And my husband and I are their muallim and muallimah or guru. May Allah helps us in our mission. Amin.

May Allah bless us all.